Be Your Own Valentine

Learning to love yourself is a lesson we all must learn if we want to enjoy life and feel accomplished. It’s not always an easy thing to do—often you are your own worst enemy, your greatest critic. But this Valentine’s Day, take time to appreciate not only your loved ones, but yourself. I’ve outlined varying levels of love you can have for yourself. See which levels you’ve mastered and which ones will need some work in the coming weeks. Make a goal to increase your love for yourself and your life this year.

Level One: Rejoice in your successes

Almost everyone can love themselves when they are successful. You are proud of your accomplishments and you can see the fruits of your labor. It’s so important to recognize the good you have done in your life, no matter how large or small. You can affect many people with your success, but the person that matters most is yourself. If you don’t love yourself when you succeed, you will have little motivation to succeed in the future.

Sometimes you may feel as though you aren’t successful at anything—don’t think this way! If you really can’t find any successes off the top of your head, start listing all of the things you’ve accomplished this week, even small things like brushing your teeth every morning or smiling when you walk into work. Noting your minor successes can help you realize that you are a good person.

Level Two: Support your goals

In the productivity world, goal setting is crucial. I am the type of person who has created a list of goals for every aspect of my life. If I am to love myself, I need to be supportive of those goals, just as I would be supportive of the goals of people I love. I need to encourage myself to work toward them regularly. I need to make sure I don’t get discouraged and give up. I need to be my own best friend, personal trainer, boss, etc., whatever it takes to help me reach my own goals.

Level Three: Develop your weaknesses

We all have weaknesses, and a lot of us dislike ourselves because of our weaknesses. The problem with this is that we are never improving our weaknesses, and thus we will continue to struggle with loving ourselves. When you develop your weaknesses, you not only improve yourself, but you can recognize your ability to achieve, which is an automatic win for loving yourself! (See Level One.)

Level Four: Console yourself when you fail

Failure is terrifying and often lonely. If you can learn to love yourself even when you fail, you will never experience the fear and disappointment that comes from failure. Sure, it’s never fun to fail, but when you love yourself, you know that failure is a part of life, not a reflection of your own worth as an individual.

Remember, when you can truly love yourself, you can focus on other important aspects of your life more fully.

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